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The Look And The Touch

As a woman, I am hyper sensitive to “the little things”.


One of the little things that I have grown to appreciate is “The Look“. Now what “look” am I talking about? I’m taking about the look that a man gives a woman. No, not that sleazy, I’m-going-to-eat-you look.

You may have seen it on the street, experienced it, or seen it in a movie or video, but you definitely know it.

It’s that look that a man gives a woman when he is in total reverie of her–whether she is his long-time love, or whether she’s a stranger that just took her first step into his local cafe.

You can always tell by the way a man looks at a woman, how he feels about her. It’s all conveyed in that one short glance–How he revels in her. Not just her outer beauty, but her soul, and everything about her that makes her, her… After all, she is everything he is not, yet everything he is at the very same time. He yearns for the softness of her skin, the sweet smell of her hair, the coolness of her touch, the fire in her eyes, the rhythm of her pulse–everything that is her. It’s all conveyed in this one, split-second, look.

I managed to capture a couple of shots of “the look”… Here are some of them in different forms:

It’s the slight smile, the leaning into, the half-closed eyelids, the propping up on one arm to get a better view of you…

It’s that smoldering gaze into the eyes that words would do no justice in describing…

It’s that look of being lost in the sight of you, where not even a simple thought enters his mind on anything else…

It’s the intensity of everything he’s feels and is trying to convey to you in a single glance…

It’s the eye-to-eye lock where both have connected on a level that they know know one else can touch…

I’d like to think that every woman deserves The Look.

And… Don’t get me wrong… Girls give The Look to guys as well.. but we’re focused on guy-to-girl. πŸ™‚ I can save that for another post.


I also have an appreciation for “The Touch”.

This is just a simple gesture, in the form of a light touch, that a one does to the other, that expresses various feelings and emotions.

A few captures of “The Touch”:

This one has The Look AND The Touch… It’s the way he can’t take his eyes off of you while he ever-so-gently strokes your skin, as if he’s afraid anything more strenuous would break you somehow…

It’s the running of his fingers over the parts of your body he only wishes he could run them over all day.. or night…

I love these gestures for the obvious reasons, but mostly because, there are so few things that you can express in words versus the other senses, like sight (The Look), or touch (The Touch). Some things are better conveyed through actions or a different form of media, other than the spoken word. An “I love you” can be as empty as a beggar’s pocket, versus something like The Look or The Touch where emotion can’t be… “faked“.

Items for discussion: What do you think about The Look or The Touch? Have you ever experienced either of these? Does or should every man look at his woman this way? Will one know when it has happened to them? What should one do if it doesn’t happen to them?

  1. August 25, 2010 at 2:14 pm

    I love this post! I personally try not to think about these things too much because I’ll feel bad about my relationship since Bryce doesn’t really do either. I’m sure receiving either The Look or The Touch is every girl’s wish (at least if they’re hopelessly romantic like us). And I’m sure some girls receive these things. But it’s important not to get hung up on whether you receive it or not because these are not the only things that make a relationship good. I’m not saying this is what you’re doing, I’m merely pointing out that this is what I think whenever I wish Bryce would do more. As for whether one will know when it happens to them, I really can’t say. I can only hope that one would notice so that it may be reciprocated.

    Sorry so long, but I think of these things too! Thanks for sharing, and I love the pictures :).

    • August 25, 2010 at 3:53 pm

      Thanks Mess! πŸ˜€ Ahhh.. I try not to think too much about these things either since the significant other is also not like this as well… AND Because like you, I AM very much so a hopeless romantic. Maybe that’s why they call us “hopeless”. LOL For myself… I have actually caught myself in the act of doing both The Look and The Touch. But then I just feel silly… I know these are not the only things that make a relationship good, but they are two things that mean a lot to me. Among other things. Like saying I love you, making future plans together, spending time with each other, expressing feelings, etc.

      Thanks for the comment! I always enjoy the feedback and insightful thoughts.

      • August 26, 2010 at 8:44 am

        Haha I know what you mean by feeling silly after attempting The Look or The Touch. I think it’s partially because (are you ready for a cliche?) it takes two to tango. πŸ˜€

      • August 26, 2010 at 9:19 am


        the audience is only REALLY interested in Jacob taking his shirt off anyway, right?

        SOOOOO funny!! LOL but yeah! rob does the “pained” look well.

        and you are SO right. it DOES take two to tango.

  2. August 25, 2010 at 2:16 pm

    These things also made me think of Twilight and how Rob is so good at both The Look and The Touch towards Bella. (Notice I did not say Kristen even though I said Rob instead of Edward LOL).

    • August 25, 2010 at 3:55 pm

      OH! and i like the Rob and Bella reference!! LOL hahahaaha! have you noticed that Jacob isn’t as….. good at the look and the touch because it seems like every time he starts it, it just becomes so filled with anger, resentment, or pain… I love how we just “twilighted” this post. LOLOLOL!

      • August 26, 2010 at 8:43 am

        Well the audience is only REALLY interested in Jacob taking his shirt off anyway, right? πŸ˜› His “looks” are just super intense to the point that he does look angry. But Rob’s… he really looks like he’s in pain for the love he feels for Bella. And it makes me empathize :).

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